How to Record a Family Member’s Life Story (Without Feeling Awkward About It)

Why It Matters More Than You Think

We take pictures. We save voicemails. But there’s something irreplaceable about when you record a family member's life story — in their own words, voice, and expressions.

Whether it’s a grandparent, parent, or older sibling, recording a life story on video creates a time capsule that future generations will cherish far more than any heirloom.

Start by Creating a Safe, Comfortable Space

You don’t need a big production or studio lighting.What matters most is:

• A quiet room with soft light (near a window is ideal)

• A relaxed atmosphere where your family member can be themselves

• A chair, a cup of coffee, maybe a dog at their feet — let it feel like home

What Questions Should You Ask?

You don’t have to ask about war stories or deep philosophy. Start simple. Here are a few gentle prompts:

• “What was your childhood like?”

• “What’s one piece of advice you’d give your younger self?”

• “Who shaped you the most in your life?”Let them take the lead — the emotion is in the details, not the structure.

You Don’t Need Fancy Gear (But Good Audio Helps)

Your phone will work just fine. But consider:

• Using a tripod to keep the shot steady

• Clipping a small lav mic to their shirt for clear audio

• Filming in landscape mode (horizontal) for easier playback later

• If tech intimidates you — or you want it handled professionally — there are services designed for this (see below).

Don’t Overthink How to Record a Family Member’s Life Story

People get nervous when they think they have to be “on.” Reassure them:

• It’s not live

• They can stop and restart

• They don’t have to be perfect — just honest

• They'll have a chance to edit out bad moments later on.

• The pauses, laughter, and little gestures are what make it meaningful.

Want Someone to Handle the Entire Process?

If you want to focus on being present — not behind the camera — we can help.

Our Bloodline Legacy Films are cinematic, guided interviews that preserve a loved one’s presence forever.

We handle everything: lighting, audio, questions, editing — you just show up and listen.

👉 Start Your Legacy Film →

About the Author

Mark Ledbetter is the founder of Testament Productions, where he helps families preserve their most meaningful stories through film. With a passion for legacy, memory, and storytelling, Mark believes everyone deserves to be remembered beautifully. Learn more →